This documentary from In Their Boots made the rounds a few weeks ago, but I didn’t get a chance to watch it until last night. It’s powerful footage, a reminder that it’s not just the soldiers who suffer because of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. Their spouses suffer as well.
Gay Soldier’s Husband blogs regularly (and anonymously) at Servicemembers United. Ben Cartwright (his real name, I swear) is active in the San Diego LGBT community (possibly NSFW). I haven’t been able to find information on the anonymous lesbian couple, probably because both are in the service. If anyone runs across some information please leave a comment.
Also, keep your eye on In Their Boots. The series of documentaries is based around the military, not DADT issues specifically.